As someone whose mental health issues earlier in my life started with others judging me and my whanau, that lead naturally into me judging myself mercilessly, so these stories are a real trigger and break my heart.
A few years ago I realised that we all seem to be addicted to finding fault. Monitor your conversations today and note if you find yourself doing this. Then just stop. Stop with the judgement and criticism and comparisons and one upping because we know that if you're saying negative things about someone, there's a high chance you're saying negative things about us too.
Please please become addicted instead to seeing and gossiping about the good and positive in others.
The changes you'll see are your valuable friendships deepening, the surface friendships dropping off, people sharing good words about you and encouraging you and, best of all, you'll start seeing and appreciating more of the good in yourself.
The only appropriate place for judgement is in competitions and life is not a competition. We're all just doing the best we can.
So, do everyone a favour and move past the external, do your homework, dig deeper, ask questions, get to know more about the person or situation.
My go-to response to anything is "That's interesting"
It's not a judgement one way or the other and opens a conversation or situation up for more information to be shared.
Pimp My Attitude
You need to know, right now, this is all about me. I'm not educated. I don't have any (non-driving related) qualifications therefore, I'm not about to tell you what you should do - I know my place.
And here you are.
At my place.
So - welcome.
If you're here for 10 seconds, I won't even know so I won't be offended that you left early.
If you're here for hours and keep coming back, I will consider you a friend because the only thing my diverse yet loyal friends have in common, and what I appreciate most about them, is that they just keep coming back..